First, I want to tell you that last week one of the individuals who lived in our community living program moved into Lifesharing. He lives with a recently retired KenCrest employee. The two of them are really excited!
Now onto topic of this week: Create some expectations
My son, who is now a catering manager, was three when he started “cooking.” He made instant pudding. By the time he was in middle school, he was at the stove without supervision making French toast. He talks about how he got started cooking and grocery shopping with his grandmother. It all started small, but he had tools, training, opportunity and expectations.
I recently attended a demonstration of a new tool. The presenter told us the story of a mom who has three children, all with autism. The big challenge for her was getting them all up in the morning. Her hope was that the tool would help. With this tool, the child, who is 7 years old, gets up each day, dresses, pours a bowl of cereal, brushes his teeth, gets his jacket on and grabs his school bag. He does all that faster than his mom can get the other two ready. I recently spoke to a mom whose daughter has an intellectual disability. She told me her daughter would never work. I listened and asked questions. I learned that her daughter has an amazing smile and loves to attend everything. I asked her if she could imagine that she would greet people at the door at church next week and hand them the bulletin. She paused and then said “Yes.” I said, sign her up!
With the right support and the right expectations, all of us can achieve our goals. Some of those achievements are all about little everyday things. When we each pull our weight, the weight is lifted from someone else. We can feel good about ourselves, too.
Do we all have expectations? If not, why not? Have we really looked at all the little things which add up in a day? There is a lot that needs to be done. Join the movement. Make some expectations today.